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Mommy and Daddy Wars

Wow, I am always so disappointed when I meet someone (online or off) and they seem like a very kool person. Then they turn out to be a an "I'm Better than You" parent. I was looking at a user (who shall remain nameless) who seemed very interesting. Then she started bragging about what a great parent she was and how she kept her kids away from the "undesirables." Now we all know families we don't really want our kids hanging out with, but boasting about it is just over the top.

Maybe it's because of the job I've taken on, but I want to see the good in each kid. (Although, I admit, finding the good in some of their parents is a personal challenge). However, I have been a working full-time mom, a stay-at-home full time mom, a part-time working mom, and a graduate student mom. All of the situations can work. What kind of example are you showing your kids as you walk past the (fill in the blank) moms with your nose in the air? Actually, I'm not sure I want YOUR kids to play with my kids.

If you don't want to have anything to do with me because I'm not exactly like you, then have a nice life.


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Jul. 17th, 2003 07:16 pm (UTC)
That's so sad. The kids will absorb that attitude and almost haven't a chance.
Jul. 18th, 2003 04:28 am (UTC)
Yea, I know what you mean. I'm not a parent just yet, but I've met many parents like that. All my life my family has been treated like we are not good people because we didn't have very much money and we needed to shop at thrift stores. When we finally got more money, we moved to a different neighborhood, a richer neighborhood. I'm 16, and there are so many little kids here that I would love to babysit, but because of the way that I dress (baggy clothes, bracelets, etc. some people call me "punk" or "goth") their parents think that I am some kind of spawn of Satan. I have been working with kids most of my life, and I am very good with them. But these people won't let me near their children just because of the way I look, without even taking the time to get to know the real me. I hate it.
Jul. 18th, 2003 09:05 am (UTC)
I totally know what you mean. I even have this argument with my husband, who is a computer programmer. I guess one of the reasons I am an SLP is because I always root for the underdog. I couldn't imagine being one of those people who is more concerned with themselves and how they will appear to society. I hope I won't be that kind of parent.
Jul. 18th, 2003 10:01 am (UTC)
The interesting thing is, usually nowadays it has more to do with child-raising ideas than looks or money. An almost reverse snobbery of "how dare you work when you have more than the poverty line instead of being there for your kids 24-7?"

Parenting, like religion or politics is a highly flammable subject.
Jul. 18th, 2003 07:32 pm (UTC)
What is an "undesirable" - poor people, people of color? I definitely wouldn't want my daughter to be around someone like that.
Jul. 18th, 2003 08:12 pm (UTC)
The undesirables I mean are those who parenting skills are obviously not up to one's own standards.
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