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Best Friends...

At least three of W's friends have remarked or written that they considered him to have been their 'best' friend. So amazing and wonderful to a mother who was rarely on the receiving end of detailed conversations with her son. It is also interesting because in a March entry in his blog, he mentions feeling that he has no best friend. How isolated we sometimes feel from one another, when there are people around us who are feeling just as lonely. And yet one rarely dares to make the leap of faith it takes to reach out, in case we are rejected.

I wish I could tell the teenagers that it gets easier to make friends as we get older, but I'm not sure that it does. I hope that I am more accepting that I was as a teenager, but I still find it difficult to maintain many friendships. And yet I appreciate them so much more at this time.

I hope my friends understand that they don't have to worry about saying the right thing or saying anything special to me. "I'm sorry" is the best thing and just being there is so very important. I hope that I make more of an effort to stay in touch with others.


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Jun. 21st, 2004 05:26 am (UTC)
Friendship is such a strange thing. I probably have 7 people who call me their best friend.. but I don't feel as if they are mine. In fact, I don't think I have one at all.

Part of it might be in our expectations... I call and write... stay in touch.. volunteer to help to get things done... visit... want to hang out.. and most of my friends have children and can't do all the things I can because I don't have children. I have even not called for a bit to see if they would call me.. and they don't. It is easy to feel lonely in a crowd of people when you don't feel special to someone.

You have given me great food for thought today. Thanks.
Jun. 21st, 2004 09:10 am (UTC)
It does take effort to stay in touch. I usually have spent more time in the past calling friends and family that the other way around. It has come back to me tenfold since Will's death. I have called my brother about once a week for years, and his wife told me last week how much they appreciated that. I didn't know they even noticed. Bless you for reaching out.
Jun. 22nd, 2004 05:02 pm (UTC)
hmmm...i'm not sure it's easier to make friends when one "get's older"--whatever that entails! :-) Seems high school and college were the easiest times for me to make friends...
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