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Should I give this to A?

Dear A,

I know you are feeling a lot of things right now. Probably, you are feeling angry. You might be feeling angry:

At God for letting this happen
At your dad and me for not protecting W
At yourself for something you did when W was alive
At other people for continuing to have fun when you feel bad
At yourself for having fun even though W is dead
At me for forcing you to do things that you don't want to do just because W is dead
At me for asking you how you feel all the time
At your dad and me for not paying attention to you since you are still with us

It's ok to feel mad about all these things and other things, too. I hope you talk to someone so that you can see that these are just feelings and not necessarily the way things have to be.

I love you.



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Aug. 10th, 2004 01:26 pm (UTC)
I think that the writing it all out is not as effective here, because it might be lost on him. I'd let these ideas bleed into everyday life, little by little.

Aug. 10th, 2004 05:44 pm (UTC)
I don't know A, how old he is or how mature.

But I think it's good to let him know that it's safe to share his feelings.

Aug. 10th, 2004 09:21 pm (UTC)
yeah, I agree with that, but without enumerating his possible feelings for him...just let him know and his dad you are always there to listen...
Aug. 14th, 2004 05:57 am (UTC)
Though it is probably too late.. my vote would be yes. I think he needs to know you do understand... even if he isn't capable of stating all this himself.. and he might be able to add one or two.

Aug. 14th, 2004 08:09 am (UTC)
Actually, I haven't shown it to him yet. I think I may show it to him, but I'm not sure I am ready.
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